Ask Real Questions, Prepare for Real Answers: Ted Bradshaw's TikTok Insights
Real Conversations about Trichotillomania
In the realm of mental health and specifically in understanding trichotillomania, the importance of empathetic support can't be overstated. Enganging in these conversations can be tricky, even if the intention is pure. This week, I found learnings in a recent TikTok video by CBT professional Ted Bradshaw, who, although primarily focuses on supporting children, offers valuable insights that can also often be applied to those grappling with hair pulling.
Bradshaw insightfully notes, "there is a lot of stuff out there about checking in with people who are struggling, but it’s only really worthwhile, or it’s only going to make a big difference, if we are willing to accept 'no' as an answer."
Drawing on this perspective and my previous article, "Your Most Crucial Guide for When Confided in About Hair-Pulling" – one of the most popular Strands Insights – let's revisit some essential do's and don'ts when having these tricky conversations.
What to do when told about Trichotillomania:
Listen Actively: Show gratitude for their trust and offer your unwavering support.
Suggest Professional Help: Encourage, without pressure, the option of consulting a therapist or medical expert.
Provide Targeted Support: Learn their preferred forms of support, whether through specific actions or through your presence and empathy.
Acknowledge Their Courage: Recognize the bravery it takes to share such a struggle and offer continual reassurance.
Keep Communicating: Regularly check in and keep communication channels open.
Ensure Confidentiality: Fully respect their privacy.
What not to do when told about Trichotillomania
Avoid Assumptions: Understand that trichotillomania manifests differently for each person.
Avoid Judgement: Ensure they don't feel unfairly judged or stigmatized.
Don’t Rush to Solutions: As Ted Bradshaw points out, "you can’t take it [the problem] away, and this isn’t your job – if there was a simple solution, they would have tried it themselves.”
No Ultimatums: Don't pressure them to stop or set deadlines.
Refrain from Jokes: Always remain sensitive to their condition and avoid making light of their struggles.
Ted Bradshaw's insights remind us that often our role in difficult conversations is simply to be a reliable, empathetic ally. By engaging in a thoughtful, non-judgmental manner, we can provide not just support but also a safe space for others to express and navigate their feelings.
