How the Christmas Festive Season Affects Trichotillomania
As the holiday season approaches, there is usually a mix of excitement and anxiety in many of us. For some, this time of year brings an unspoken challenge: managing trichotillomania, a hair-pulling condition.
Looking at the holiday season can be complex as experiences can differ to the extreme, from pressures to attend social events, to feelings of acute loneliness. And these realities can be experienced independently or even simultaneously.
Similarly, increased opportunity to spend time with friends and family can bring a comforting time of support, but if family dynamics are tricky, this can be far from the case.
For those with hair pulling conditions, here are few things we can experience:
Tricky Conversations Trichotillomania
Should this arise unexpectedly, the fear of judgement or having to explain the condition can be daunting. If you do decide to share your experience, try to choose the right time where interruptions and distractions are minimal. Family are often more aware of our hair-pulling, so if you feel able to broach the conversation with them early and set some boundaries, I’d recommend this- For example, you could discuss what would be a supportive and appropriate response if they see you pulling your hair. You could also share this article with them to help: Your Most Crucial Guide for When Confided in About Hair-Pulling
Holiday Joy and Distraction:
The festive season, with its array of activities and merriment, can also provide a welcome distraction. Many people find that they pull less when they are busy in social situations, so for some this may be a bit a time for respite. If you are finding that the opposite is happening, consider your social calendar and decide which events you want to prioritise attending, and which moments you will create for yourself- be it slower morning, lunchtime walks or evenings reading.
Presentation challenges
If you experience hair pulling from a place that is visible to others, this time of year can be difficult. We know that sales of products such as hair styling products, false eyelashes and beard oils can increase at this time of year, and that heightened interaction with areas that you pull from can add new sensations and challenges to Hair Pulling. If this is having a negative impact, try to be aware of, and limit the ‘grooming’ interactions, where you can- we can look after yourself in a sustainable way over the year, but lots of friction with our point of pulling, is unlikely to help during this period.
Coping Strategies for the Festive Season:
During this season, it's crucial to have strategies in place. Mindfulness exercises, setting aside time for relaxation, and having an open conversation with loved ones about your needs can be immensely helpful. It’s about finding balance and allowing yourself to enjoy the season while maintaining mental well-being. You may want to practise self acceptance and forgiving over this period, as this can be useful too. There is no one right answer to coping, find what is right for you.
READ: Self-Forgiveness and Trichotillomania: A Practical Approach
Professional Help During Holidays:
Seeking professional help, even during the holidays, is highly recommended- although I appreciate medical support can be harder to access with longer wait times. Do try to speak to a doctor if you notice any changes or need extra support. Therapists who specialize in trichotillomania can also offer tailored strategies to cope with holiday stressors.
The holiday season, while festive and bright, can be a challenging time for those with trichotillomania. However, by acknowledging these challenges and adopting coping strategies, it’s possible to not only manage the condition but also enjoy the warmth and joy of the season. Remember, you are not alone in this journey.
